Book Review: Changing You!

I recently happened upon the book Changing You: A Guide to Body Changes and Sexuality by Dr. Gail Saltz. It's a book on sexuality that was published last year. In the Beyond Birds & Bees workshop I recommend that parents buy a book about sex for their kids every year or so, so I was pleased to find a new one to review.

Changing You is about 30 pages long, and illustrated with cartoon-style illustrations. It briefly addresses: puberty, boy genital names & pubertal changes, girl genitals and pubertal changes, erections, menstruation, hair growth, sexual intercourse, fertilization, pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding. It very, very briefly mentions masturbation and hints at sexual abuse (at almost the same time--saying that it's normal to touch your own body but that you shouldn't let anyone else do so.) All in all, a good run-down of the basics.

Here's what I liked about it:

• The target reader age of this book seems to be around 8-9, an age group that seems to be hard to write about sex to... everything seems to be too young or too old.
  
• The text of this book is great--direct, age-appropriate, and clear. There aren't too many words, either (my biggest complaint about "It's So Amazing").
• Happily the correct terminology for a woman's external genitalia is used. (That's "vulva," fyi.)
  
• Two notes to parents provide great information about talking with your child about sex.
• The photos and tone of the book overall are very positive.
  

Here's what I did not like about the book:

• Nocturnal erections are only hinted at. Alongside a photo of a boy in bed with an erection under his sheets is the description: "Some mornings, it's not just the sun that rises..." I think we can do better than hints. Let's name names and give our sons (and daughters) at least the basic facts. Come to think of it, I'd of preferred a bit more teaching about what masturbation and sexual abuse are, too.
  
• When defining sexual intercourse, it says: "When a man and a woman love each other and decide that they want to have a child, they will do something called 'sexual intercourse' ". Welllllll, that isn't exactly true, is it? Last time I checked, people were having sex at times other than when they wanted to reproduce. Ahem.
• Some of the illustrations look a little weird, particularly the ones of the naked boy and girl, where body parts are named. Their bodies are virtually squares. Again, I think we can do better. A more realistic representation of a body is appropriate--no child will recognize themselves in a square.
  

So, I would recommend this book for:

• girls
• ages 8 or so,
• who are moderately interested in sexuality issues, and
  
• who are not asking lots of detailed questions yet.

I would not recommend this book for:

• boys, as the illustrations have lots of hearts, flowers, and the color pink... not themes that traditionally appeal to boys. Plus, the data on erections/boy body changes just isn't sufficient.
  
• a child who has already started the puberty process, or one who is searching for details and in-depth information. The information is just too basic.

In summary, I'm definitely going to add this to my list of recommended books, for the age range between "What's the big Secret" and "It's so Amazing." It's a great resource for young girls who are searching for basic info on sex and puberty.